I was always so sure that my life would go exactly the way I planned it. It was always my objective to go to Uni, get into my desired career path as quick as ever, work my socks off until I made my business lucrative enough to run itself, invest money into property and flip my investments until I made enough profit to be comfortable and then settle down and have kids with the person I fell in loved with and married whilst I was simultaneously achieving all of these occupational goals. I have always believed that I was destined for greatness and although I still believe so but, I’ve come to realise that even it is not impossible to attain the above it is far from easy. I thought that the only hurdles that I would have to forcibly jump over in my race with life would be career related ones and life has shown that it’s not that simple.
First off doing all of these things before you reach the tender age of 26-28 years old is not as realistic as it seems. Careers take grafting and hard work to attain and talent and merit is purely not enough to get to where you want to be. The saying that ‘your network is your net worth’ is one that definitely follows true to form. You need to make connections with the right people who can push you towards even more people to get to where you need to be and all of this takes time. Sometimes months but most times years and that just the reality of it. I find that you may see some people doing what you want to be doing and you don’t believe that they deserve what they’re receiving but, if you look deeper down the line, you may realise that person is probably so well connected that they don’t even need to graft as hard as you’re currently doing.
In regards to relationships, falling in love is easily done but being in a relationship with someone who you are compatible with is harder. When I was younger I used to think that love was enough but now that I am older I realise that it is far from. Just because two people feel the same way about each other does not mean that they should/can be together. A relationship needs to be held together with more than the I love you’s that you whisper to each other. It takes time, effort and dedication and more importantly patience. It takes more to be a good partner to your spouse than giving them kisses and hugs and taking them to nice dinners. It takes support, trust, selflessness amongst other things to make things work.
Also, It’s important to really be with someone that rides for you in every sense of the notion. They have to be your biggest fan, they have to be willing to invest in you in every possible way. I’ve come to realise that it’s way too easy to settle with someone who you know isn’t right for you due to the fear of being alone and not getting married in ‘time’ but in the long run, it’s only detrimental to your being.
All in all, what I’m trying to say is that really, I had a plan that is going to shits and it’s not a bad thing. It’s my own fault for making myself believe that if things are meant to be then they would happen seamlessly and almost immediately – without a glitch. I think that mentally, I was limiting myself and subconsciously setting myself up for failure. Of course these things are attainable without a doubt, but the time frame was not realistic. They will not happen on such a short timeline and it wont be as easy to attain as I want it to be. I have to remember that not only is everything worth having is worth working for but it’s also worth waiting for.